I had a dream the other night that I was in love with someone that I'm not actually in love with. It was very strange, and it's still sort of haunting me.
That is an unavoidable side-effect of being apart from whoever it is you want to be with. I can't count how many times this summer I've had dreams about awful exes, lost opportunities, or current friends, all in relationships I shouldn't be in and don't want.
These are totally disturbing and screw me up for days, by the way. You get over it, though.
The thing is, the dream was actually pretty pleasant. What disturbs me is that I could get that intensity of emotion out of a dream, especially a reasonably complex emotion like long-term love.
Mostly, I get things like fear, paranoia or lust out of dreams.
To clarify, mine aren't unpleasant at all. They just happen to be accompanied later by crippling guilt and constant questioning of whether I really do want to be with someone else.
And I don't [want to be with someone else], but that doesn't stop the guilt.
I've had those. The biggest example I remember was back in Jr. High or High School, the person was someone I had never been friends with or interested in in the slightest, and it completely screwed me up for a few days because whenever I saw the guy in the hallways, I immediately had an emotional reaction, or at least a shadow of an emotional reaction, based on the dream.
Things you dream of remembering can also mess you up like that.
I often have dreams where I meet someone and fall desperately in love with them, with the full intensity of feeling you would expect if it happened for real.
Usually this person is a stranger, someone who doesn't correspond to anyone I actually know. Inevitably, at some point in the dream I will "remember" that I am actually married to Ramee, and that I have put myself in a terrible and irreconcilable position. I wake up from these dreams disturbed, frightened, and sad.
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1) Want to kill your father.
2) Want to marry your mother.
-Andy
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--Ben
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These are totally disturbing and screw me up for days, by the way. You get over it, though.
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The thing is, the dream was actually pretty pleasant. What disturbs me is that I could get that intensity of emotion out of a dream, especially a reasonably complex emotion like long-term love.
Mostly, I get things like fear, paranoia or lust out of dreams.
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--Ben
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To clarify, mine aren't unpleasant at all. They just happen to be accompanied later by crippling guilt and constant questioning of whether I really do want to be with someone else.
And I don't [want to be with someone else], but that doesn't stop the guilt.
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Things you dream of remembering can also mess you up like that.
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Usually this person is a stranger, someone who doesn't correspond to anyone I actually know. Inevitably, at some point in the dream I will "remember" that I am actually married to Ramee, and that I have put myself in a terrible and irreconcilable position. I wake up from these dreams disturbed, frightened, and sad.
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...oh, wait.