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I had a dream the other night that I was in love with someone that I'm not actually in love with. It was very strange, and it's still sort of haunting me.

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Coming from a rich and recognized psychological background, I have come to the conclusion that your dream means that you actually:

1) Want to kill your father.
2) Want to marry your mother.

-Andy

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Huh. That's odd. I want to kill his father and marry his mother, too.

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Dude. Have even you met my parents?

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--Ben

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Son, I've met your mom.

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That is an unavoidable side-effect of being apart from whoever it is you want to be with. I can't count how many times this summer I've had dreams about awful exes, lost opportunities, or current friends, all in relationships I shouldn't be in and don't want.

These are totally disturbing and screw me up for days, by the way. You get over it, though.

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Huh. Strange.

The thing is, the dream was actually pretty pleasant. What disturbs me is that I could get that intensity of emotion out of a dream, especially a reasonably complex emotion like long-term love.

Mostly, I get things like fear, paranoia or lust out of dreams.

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--Ben

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Yeah, it is strange how that works.

To clarify, mine aren't unpleasant at all. They just happen to be accompanied later by crippling guilt and constant questioning of whether I really do want to be with someone else.

And I don't [want to be with someone else], but that doesn't stop the guilt.

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I've had those. The biggest example I remember was back in Jr. High or High School, the person was someone I had never been friends with or interested in in the slightest, and it completely screwed me up for a few days because whenever I saw the guy in the hallways, I immediately had an emotional reaction, or at least a shadow of an emotional reaction, based on the dream.

Things you dream of remembering can also mess you up like that.

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I often have dreams where I meet someone and fall desperately in love with them, with the full intensity of feeling you would expect if it happened for real.

Usually this person is a stranger, someone who doesn't correspond to anyone I actually know. Inevitably, at some point in the dream I will "remember" that I am actually married to Ramee, and that I have put myself in a terrible and irreconcilable position. I wake up from these dreams disturbed, frightened, and sad.

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I had a dream last night that involved stand-up comedy with David Carradine, but you don't see *me* posting about that, do you?

...oh, wait.

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