benlehman

See it's definitely cultural and not just the relationship thing either. Because of the intense focus on schooling and the likelihood of them being an only child, kids in North-East Asia (China, Japan, Korea) are likely to never have had a job before graduating from college, to have lived with their parents for much, much longer, to have gained true independence either much later or not at all, etc. So when I meet them they're always in the middle of doing their teenage rebellion thing when they're like 23. And then there's the general lack of critical thinking training, because of the nature of the education system, and the widespread racism against the Japanese (in China), blacks, minorities, foreigners, etc. So I find it much easier to wait until they've been out in the real world for a bit, gained some experience, become more relativistic in their thinking (hopefully), and have had a few broken hearts. I guess that might sound a bit patronizing.