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[benlehman]

In other news: Point out and criticizing the stupid things that men do to try to get sex is sexist against women.

I'm trying to wrap my head around this.

I've been in many games where the girl who the GM wants to get in bed, or already has in bed, gets special attention, "cool plot," etc. It's stupid boy behavior (never seen a girl GM do it) and one of the downsides to having one person with %100 of the social and material power in a gaming group. It's stupid and it happens constantly.

How is pointing it out an attack against the women involved? The only situation I can think of is one where a girl likes this behavior, and is afraid that acknowledging her privilege will take it away.

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[relevance.livejournal.com]

What if you're operating in the real world and don't know whether the target likes the game being subverted to hit on them? If you're another gamer in the group who's trying to improve the game by correcting the situation, it's sexist to assume that they like it, or are actively seeking it, because they are male/female. I think this is what she's complaining about.

As marcus_sez_vote points out, men and women can receive favoritism, and as I point out, it's never good for the game. But this is only tangentially related to the sexist assumptions that the original blogger is complaining about.

[benlehman.livejournal.com]

I guess. I just haven't largely seen it levelled at women exclusively, and usually seen it levelled at the initiator rather than the target.

Regardless, though, if there's social dysfunction going on, I'm loathe to tell people "you shouldn't point that out." For whatever reason.

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--Ben

[relevance.livejournal.com]

Oh, I absolutely agree that it should be pointed out. One just needs to be careful about one's phrasing and assumptions when one does so.