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posted by [personal profile] benlehman at 08:43pm on 09/12/2005
Summer is a nice girl. She is 22 years old, gorgeous and doesn't really know it, and works at the Fuzimiao International Youth Hostel in Nanjing. She smiles and laughs, jokes in her good, thick English with the guests, and is never tired, even when she's worked from nine in the morning to two in the morning. Her name in Chinese is 夏雨 (xiayu), and it means "summer rain" and is homophonous with "raining" but she always goes by the English "Summer." She flirts with the guys when no one is watching, and they flirt back with her, in slow English or broken, atonal Chinese, mostly smiles and eyes and winks. The things we all understand.

She teases me because I never speak English with any of the staff, only Chinese. She says it's because my English must be bad. I tell her that her English is better than mine, and she laughs. She has a pretty laugh.

Two nights ago she was crying, and I still don't know why. I tried to approach her, but the aphasia struck, the words are missing, I don't know what to say. I don't have comfort, not here, not for myself and not for others, and so I let the other staff, the older women and grumpy men, take care of her. Whatever it was, she was smiling the next day. It's her job, I guess, to be the happy one.

She forgets her underwear, at least, I think it's her underwear, in the shower stall, on the clothes hooks. It's pink and black, mismatched. I don't have the heart to tell her I saw it. She cares for the two dirty white kittens that run the hostel, and they in return give her a strange, fierce loyalty. She feeds the fish, and tells me which ones are smart and which ones are dumb.

When she charges me my room fees, she forgets a bit here and there. I've been sick, pretty bad cough but nothing fatal, but she brings me medicine and hot water, and tells me what vegetables and meats are good for colds. She puts them in front of me when I sit down to eat dinner with all the staff. She worries that she's too fat.

She only spends one night out of three at home, with her father and her mother, but that's okay with her, she says, because she doesn't like her mother's cooking. She has a brother that works in Los Angeles. She hasn't seen him in six years, and doesn't know if she ever will again. She wants to travel, but she can't afford it.

When I told her I was a writer, she told me that I should write about the hostel. She told me that I should write it to the world and Lonely Planet, and that when I do, I should tell them that Summer is a good girl.

If you go to Nanjing, and you decide to stay in this hostel, ask for Summer. Tell her you read what I wrote, and that I said she was a good girl. I doubt she'll remember me, but if she does, I want her to know that I keep my promises.
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posted by (anonymous) at 06:33pm on 09/12/2005
Ask her out, fool.

Worst case scenario: you leave in disgrace and never see her again.

Which is exactly what will happen if you don't ask.
 
posted by [identity profile] judd-sonofbert.livejournal.com at 10:57pm on 09/12/2005
Agreed.

Tell her that you'd ask her out in English only your grasp on the language is so terrible you are afraid you'd make a mistake.
 
posted by [identity profile] nikotesla.livejournal.com at 01:05am on 10/12/2005
Oh, that's good.
 
posted by [identity profile] yeloson.livejournal.com at 07:32pm on 09/12/2005
There's always good people, somewhere, tucked away- struggling for the life of them.

(I also wondered why there was keetooms in your earlier post. Now I know.)
 
posted by [identity profile] aumshantih.livejournal.com at 08:18pm on 09/12/2005
There are good people everywhere.

Thanks for sharing this touching vignette - the bit with her brother was very powerful. It reminded me a lot of the distance between my extended family and my family here in America.
 
posted by [identity profile] nikotesla.livejournal.com at 10:03pm on 09/12/2005
That's a serious, high-quality crush you got there, friend.
 
posted by [identity profile] heyunyi.livejournal.com at 12:05am on 10/12/2005
I've stayed at that youth hostel, and I think I may remember meeting Summer, but it's all a bit blurry. (Obviously, she didn't make as big an impression on me as she did you.)
 
posted by [identity profile] benlehman.livejournal.com at 03:36am on 11/12/2005
Heh. I have been living here for a couple of weeks, so I've got more time to know the staff.

yrs--
--Ben
 
posted by [identity profile] greyorm.livejournal.com at 02:12am on 10/12/2005
I agree, ask her out for some quiet talk over a cup of tea or coffee or whatever it is folks in China do to get acquainted. Seriously, don't make me fly to China to kick you in the butt and then rely on the US embassy to fly my poor ass home! You'll feel terribly guilty!
 
posted by [identity profile] benlehman.livejournal.com at 03:36am on 11/12/2005
I have to say I find the response to this post really interesting at a socio-cultural level.

yrs--
--Ben
 
posted by (anonymous) at 04:22am on 11/12/2005
I find that interesting on a level of you getting all socio-abstract so you don't have to explain why you haven't asked her out yet.
 
posted by [identity profile] benlehman.livejournal.com at 06:24am on 11/12/2005
'cause I'm not particularly interested?

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--Ben

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